The coming out can be the most empowering experience Lesbian and Bisexual Women have in their lifetime because it means to get over the internal homophobia and to admit the sexual orientation to oneself and to others. This self-acceptance is an essential thing for the personal well-being. But it also means to face many challenges a heteronormative society presents to Lesbian and Bisexual Women (e.g. discrimination, prejudices and rejection). Especially the coming out to loved ones is often described as the most difficult period in their lives.
But no coming out is like the other, it always depends on the circumstances women live under. The situation of young and unattached women is obviously completely different to the situation of women who are married and have children. But what unites all these women is the fear of loosing important relationships and hurting loved ones. This is why all Lesbian and Bisexual Women have to be aware that not homosexuality is the problem, but homophobia is.
All Lesbian and Bisexual Women will need support at this time and there are always ways to find some. Usually Lesbian and Bisexual Women start to acquire information which they find online, in books and pamphlets. Often that helps in an intellectual way and can provide them with different tools of coping; but still, they feel alone and need somebody who is listening to their concerns. Usually loved ones are willing to listen and try to provide support. Even if they are not willing or if it is not the time for a coming out to loved ones there are always people who are willing to support when Lesbian and Bisexual Women reach out for. LGBTI-friendly youth centers where to find people in similar situations were established in the bigger cities and help lines and counseling centers can help in an urgent crisis.
However, people who support often need some support as well, especially loved ones who have to deal with the sexual orientation of Lesbian and Bisexual friends and family members. Discussions with loved ones can help a lot for the own awareness, but it can also hurt if loved ones are not capable to this topic. Support and patience to oneself and to others are probably the most important skills for a coming out.